• If you shake someone's hand at the end of the date you make it obvious that it's just a "friend thing" with no romantic potential.
  
• If you're interested, you should always kiss on the first date — but it should be short and sweet.
  
• It should be the man's job to initiate the kiss, but the woman still needs to send the right signals.
  
• A flirtatious gesture like a hand on the arm is a great way to say things are going well.
  
• Men, you may have heard the so-called "rules" of waiting two or even three days, but if you're interested in the woman you should call right away. She should not do the calling. As hard as that is, women, it's important to wait.
  
• We have so much technology now, use it. Send an e-mail — "I enjoyed spending time with you."
  
• If you get the answering machine, don't get turned away. Think of it as a new way to flirt.
  
• As the relationship progresses and you feel more comfortable with each other, there's one great way to see if the two of you can go to the next level — go on a trip together.

Nancy Slotnick, Dating Coach
Cablight.com
nancy@cablight.com, www.cablight.com

Harriette Cole, Syndicated Advice Columnist, "Sense & Sensitivity"
Profundities, Inc.
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How to Be: Contemporary Etiquette for African Americans
By Harriette Cole

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